WHAT DOES SUCCESS LOOK LIKE IN MATCHMAKING?
If you’re looking to invest time and money into matchmaking, then you’re likely expecting a specific end result: finding the love of your life. But the fact is that matchmaking can result in a variety of positive outcomes beyond finding your perfect match.
Matchmaking is a process that’s tailored specifically to each unique individual, so there isn’t one specific metric for matchmaking success. Because matchmaking is driven by the client’s needs and expectations, metrics for success may change or adjust over the course of working with a matchmaker.
Before you start on your matchmaking journey, here are some possible positive outcomes to plan for.
Improved Confidence with Dating
When you hire a matchmaker, you get a personal dating cheerleader on your side who’s going to guide you through the process of improving your dating habits and connecting with compatible matches.
A matchmaker becomes your biggest cheerleader as they get to know you on a personal level. Starting with an in-depth interview about your values, life goals, and dating patterns, your matchmaking experience is shaped by multiple touchpoints with your matchmaker. Even after the initial interview, you still communicate with the matchmaker via phone call, email, and text to provide feedback about your matches and thoughts about your experiences. During this process the matchmaker builds a better understanding of who you are as a person and promotes your best traits to potential matches. Working with a matchmaker is like having a personal publicist on your team who will attract compatible singles to you by communicating your unique story and best qualities.
In addition to having your own personal dating cheerleader, matchmaking improves your dating confidence by creating opportunities for better dating experiences. A matchmaker selects a date for you based on your personality, interests, values, and goals. After vetting potential matches through a background check, a matchmaker essentially goes out on first dates for you to filter for singles that you would be most compatible with. When you spend less time on vetting and more time on being your best self, you can focus on having fun during the first meet-up and exploring chemistry with a potential match.
Improved self-understanding
Another form of success in matchmaking is how much better you get to know yourself and your relationship needs. If the key to a happy, more fulfilled life is truly knowing who you are and what you want from your life, then matchmaking is an ideal tool for figuring that out.
Having a range of dating experiences with compatible matches can show you your strengths and weaknesses when it comes to dating. Whether it’s improving eye contact or honing your conversation starters, we all need to work on specific dating skills, and matchmaking helps show you what you’re good at and what you can work on, thus increasing your self-knowledge.
Conversations with a matchmaker can help clarify why you tend to be attracted to certain types of people, or why you always end up pushing people away when they get too close. Matchmaking puts you in a position of not only experimenting with dating strategies, but learning more about how you react to certain personality types, what your boundaries are, and what types of activities or conversations help you feel more comfortable with a new person.
Healthy, Fulfilling Relationships
Of course, when most people choose matchmaking, it’s because they want to find the love of their life. And when it happens through matchmaking, it’s by design. Matchmaking is an art and a science that combines a bit of intuition, sociology, and psychology to figure out what couples are most compatible.
While opposites may attract, they don’t always materialize into healthy, long-term relationships. Matchmakers will try to find matches for you that complement your lifestyle while also challenging you in some other ways. Most importantly, they find matches who share your values and are emotionally equipped to build a solid foundation for a mutually fulfilling partnership.
The best relationships happen when two people share similar values but bring enough difference to the table to keep it interesting. Matchmaking can help you find the right balance between similarities and differences that make for a healthy, long-term relationship.
More Honest Dating Experiences
One of the most common complaints about today’s dating landscape is how easy it is to be misled by an online profile. Someone you swiped right on looked great in their profile photos, but does not look the same in person. Over time, these scenarios can degrade your trust in the dating process and lead to burnout and frustration.
Matchmaking solves this issue by not only vetting and background checking all candidates, but also providing accurate and recent photos for your potential matches so you know exactly what to expect when you meet a complete stranger. You’ll also get detailed descriptions of your match to learn more about their personality, goals, and lifestyle before meeting them.
Dating is a microcosm of the human experience - from joy and fear, to curiosity and adventure - so matchmaking success depends where the individual client stands in their life path and the unique obstacles they need to overcome. Regardless of where you are in your dating journey, matchmaking can guide you in reaching the goals most important to you.
