WHY YOU SHOULD CONSIDER MATCHMAKING
Matchmaking is one of the oldest professions on the planet, yet it has fallen out of favor in the last few centuries due to the ever-changing roles of romance and relationships, and the rise of technologies like dating apps and AI.
For singles looking for an alternative to dating apps or meeting people at bars, matchmaking is a smart move that has benefits built into the search for love. Here are the best reasons to try matchmaking:
Safety and Security
One of the biggest complaints from singles, specifically women, is that dating apps allow bad behavior from men and perpetuate negative dating experiences. This includes unsolicited nude photos, offensive messages, and catfishing (just to name a few).
As a matchmaker, I vet and background check every potential match. By meeting singles in person, interviewing them, and verifying their information with a background check system, I can quickly filter out people who misrepresent themselves or have bad intentions.
Quality Dates
When singles sign up for matchmaking, they provide a lot of information about themselves and what they’re looking for, and then they do an in-depth interview with me to learn more about relationship expectations, dating patterns, values, and deal breakers. All of this information - along with a general intuitive sense I get from a person based on meeting them - is applied to choosing specific, curated matches.
When I arrange a first meet up for you, I account for your needs, your relationship experiences, hobbies, values, and deal breakers to give you a compatible match. If you’re looking to start a family, you’ll only meet with others who have the same goal. If you’re passionate about sports and staying active, I will match you with someone who has a gym membership and loves trying new activities. While dating app can result in a fairly mixed bag when it comes to potential partners, matchmaking accounts for your personality, goals, and values and results in dates with people that complement your lifestyle.
End the Paradox of Choice
When you work with a matchmaker, you spend less time slogging through potential matches on dating apps and more time going on quality dates. Dating apps are designed to present an endless array of choices to keep you swiping and engaged with the apps.
A matchmaker does all the filtering and deciding for you based on what you’re specifically looking for. Rather than being faced with dozens of potential dates, you go on curated dates with 5-7 people who match your needs when it comes to family planning, marriage, life goals, and hobbies. All you have to do is show up and have fun on the meet up!
Personalized Guidance
Everyone has their own needs, expectations, and experiences when it comes to dating and relationships, and not all of those needs are given much attention in the cookie-cutter boxes that dating apps provide.
A matchmaker will take time to get to know you and your unique story. Everyone has their own journey with dating and relationships, and matchmakers pay close attention to the unique experiences that have shaped who you are today. When you talk to a matchmaker, you get a supportive, encouraging person in your corner to guide you every step of the way in your relationship journey.
Get Better at Dating
“Shiny object syndrome” is a big obstacle that you may need to overcome in your dating journey. In a world full of endless options, it’s tempting to simply date around, meeting with anyone who looks attractive and seems interesting. But this mindset often results in cycles of excitement, bad dates, and eventual let downs.
Working with a matchmaker can help focus your dating experience on people who truly match your requirements, while also helping you break out of bad dating patterns. If you find yourself attracted to the same kind of people, and you continue having negative experiences, a matchmaker can guide you in dating outside your type and learning to have fun with people you wouldn’t have considered meeting otherwise.
